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Why are we talking about our flesh and blood?

 

We are discussing them due to the following reasons:

1. Out of compliance with Allaah's order as is found in His saying:

"Allaah commands you as regards to your children." [Surah An-Nisaa: 11]

And His saying:

"O you who believe, save yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is men and stones over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who disobey not, (from executing) the Commands they receive from Allaah, but do that which they are commanded." [Surah At-Tahreem: 6]

It is reported in ad-Durr-ul-Manthoor (8/225) and reported by 'Abdur-Razzaaq, Al-Firyaabee, Sa'eed bin Mansoor, 'Abd bin Humaid, Ibn Jareer, Ibn Al-Mundhir, Al-Haakim who authenticated it, and Al-Bayhaqee in al-Madkhal that 'Alee bin Abee Taalib said concerning Allaah's statement: "Save yourselves and your families from a Fire": "Teach yourselves and your families the good and educate them."

Ibn Jareer and Ibn Al-Mundhir reported that Ibn 'Abbaas said about the ayah: "(It means): Act in accordance to the obedience of Allaah and avoid those things that constitute disobedience to Him. And enjoin your family with Allaah's Remembrance - He will save you from the Hellfire."

'Abd bin Humaid reported that Ibn 'Abbaas said regarding Allaah's statement: "Save yourselves and your families from a Fire": "Educate your family."

Ash-Shanqeetee said in Adwaa-ul-Bayaan (1/466): "It is incumbent upon a person to order his family - such as his wife, children and so on - towards good and to forbid them from evil. This is based on Allaah's statement: 'O you who believe, save yourselves and your families from a Fire' and the Prophet's statement: 'All of you are guardians and each one of you is responsible for those under his care'"

2. Because children are part of a man's earnings and deeds. And the connection between him and his child becomes broken if the child does something that is dishonorable. So at this point the description found in the noble Qur'aan can be truthfully applied to him:

"He said: 'O Nooh! Surely, he is not of your family. Verily, it is an act that is dishonorable." [Surah Hood: 46]

3. Because it is hoped that a child will supplicate for his parents. Abu Hurairah reported that Allaah's Messenger said: "When a person dies, his good deeds come to an end except for three: A recurring charity, knowledge that is benefited from or a righteous child that supplicates for him." 3

4. In order to take charge of our responsibility. Ibn 'Umar reported that Allaah's Messenger said: "Each of you is a guardian and responsible for those under his care. The leader (Imaam) is a guardian of his subjects and responsible for them. A man is a guardian of his family and responsible for them. A woman is a guardian of her husband's home and responsible for it. A servant is a guardian of the wealth of his master and responsible for it." - And I think that he said: - "A man is a guardian of his father's wealth and responsible for it. So each of you is a guardian and responsible for those under your care." 4

'Awn bin Abee Juhaifah narrated that his father said: "The Prophet made a bond of brotherhood between Salmaan and Abud-Dardaa, so Salmaan went to visit Abud-Dardaa one day and found Umm ad-Dardaa in shabby clothes and asked her why she was in that state. She replied: 'Your brother Abud-Dardaa has no concern for this worldly life!!' In the meantime, Abud-Dardaa came home and prepared a meal for him. So he (i.e. Salmaan) said: "Eat (with me)" but Abud-Dardaa said: "I'm fasting." So Salmaan said: "I won't eat unless you eat!!" So he ate with him. When night came (and a part of the night had passed), Abud-Dardaa got up to offer the Night Prayer, but Salmaan told him to sleep so Abud-Dardaa slept. After some time, he got up again but Salmaan told him to sleep. When it was the last hours of the night, Salmaan told him: 'Get up now' and both of them performed the Night Prayer. Then Salmaan told him: 'Your Lord has a right over you. Your own self has a right over you. And your family has a right over you. So give everything that has a right over you its due right.'

Later, Abud-Dardaa went to the Prophet and mentioned to him what happened, so the Prophet replied: 'Salmaan spoke truthfully.'" 5

5. It is supporting and building the future. Allaah says:

"And remember when He said to the angels: 'Verily I will place on earth (mankind) as successive generations." [Surah Al-Baqarah: 30]

And He says:

"O Dawood! Verily, We have placed you as a successor on earth, so judge you between men in truth and follow not your desire for it will mislead you from the path of Allaah. Verily, those who wander astray from the path of Allaah will have a severe torment because they forget the Day of Reckoning." [Surah Saad: 26]

And He says:
"Then there succeeded a generation after them that inherited the Book. But they chose for themselves the goods of this lowly life, saying: 'Our sins will be forgiven.' And if the offer of the likes of it (i.e. lowly life of sin) were presented to them (again), they would seize it. Was not the covenant of the Book taken from them that they would not say anything about Allaah but the truth? And they (even) studied what was in it. And the abode of the Hereafter is better for those who fear Him. Do you not then understand?"
[Surah Al-A'raaf: 169]

And He says:

"Then there succeeded a generation after them that neglected the prayer and followed (their) desires. So they will be thrown in Hell." [Surah Maryam: 59]

Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudree reported that the Prophet said: "Verily this worldly life is sweet and green and indeed Allaah appoints you as successors in it so that He may see how you will act..." - in one narration, it states - "...in order to see how you act. So be wary of the worldly life and be wary of women, for indeed the first trial of the Tribe of Israa'eel was with regard to women." 6

6. It is a cause for comfort, a happy life, and good living. So whoever fears Allaah and is dutiful to Him, he will create for himself a joyful life and good living. And whoever doesn't fear Allaah and doesn't comply with His commands, he will live a hard life.

Allaah says:

"Whoever does righteous deeds - whether male or female - while he (or she) is a true believer, verily, to him We will give a good life and We shall pay them a reward in proportion to the best of what they used to do." [Surah An-Nahl: 97]

And He says:

"But whosoever turns away from My Reminder, verily, for him is a life of hardship and We shall raise him up blind on the Day of Resurrection." [Surah TaHa: 124]

7. And so that we don't place ourselves into sin, Khaithamah narrated: "We were sitting with 'Abdullaah bin 'Amr when one of his servants came in. So he (Ibn 'Amr) said: 'Have you given the servants their provision?' He said: 'No.' So he said: 'Go and give them (their sustenance) for Allaah's Messenger said: 'It is sufficient sin for a man that he withholds subsistence from those whom he governs over.'" 7

In the wording reported by Abu Dawood with a chain of narration that has no problem with it, the Prophet said: "It is sufficient sin for a man that he neglects those whom he supports." 8

Footnotes:

3 Reported by Muslim in his Saheeh: Book of Testaments (no. 1631)
4 Reported by Al-Bukhaaree in his Saheeh: Book of Jumu'ah Prayer (no. 893) and Muslim in his Saheeh: Book of Leadership (no. 1829)
5 Reported by Al-Bukhaaree in his Saheeh: Book of Fasting (no. 1968)
6 Reported by Muslim in his Saheeh: Book of Remembrance, Supplication, Repentance and Seeking Forgiveness (no. 2742)
7 Reported by Muslim in his Saheeh: Book of Zakaat (no. 996)
8 Reported by Abu Dawood in his Sunan: Book of Zakaat (no. 1692)